This is what I have concluded:

Anger is a defence mechanism. Because of lack of understanding and love, people get angry. Because of unfulfilled expectations, people get angry. We hold others to some standard that we have somehow fantasized, chosen, and applied to them. They may not even know about these standards, but that does not matter to us.

So often people are angry at us because we have not met their expectations. The expectations may be completely unrealistic, so that we cannot possibly fit their agenda.

Anger is a defense of the ego, defense against fear. Fear of being humiliated or embarrassed, fear of being minimized, of being mocked, fear of loss and of losing face, indeed fear of losing. Fear of not getting your way. We think anger “protects” us against the others, who would do these things to us, who likewise are angry at us.

When a negative emotion is understood, when its roots are illuminated, the energy behind the emotion diminishes and even disappears. When you feel angry, the healthy response is to learn what caused the anger, to rectify the situation if that is possible, and then to let go of the anger.

Understanding and love dissolve anger.

And i know now why there is hatred. And that is because people never put in the effort to try to understand where others are coming from. That is why there is the existence of judgementalism. The fear of the unknown causes hatred and jealousy to breed.

I am happy and at peace with myself.