This is what I have concluded:

Anger is a defence mechanism. Because of lack of understanding and love, people get angry. Because of unfulfilled expectations, people get angry. We hold others to some standard that we have somehow fantasized, chosen, and applied to them. They may not even know about these standards, but that does not matter to us.

So often people are angry at us because we have not met their expectations. The expectations may be completely unrealistic, so that we cannot possibly fit their agenda.

Anger is a defense of the ego, defense against fear. Fear of being humiliated or embarrassed, fear of being minimized, of being mocked, fear of loss and of losing face, indeed fear of losing. Fear of not getting your way. We think anger “protects” us against the others, who would do these things to us, who likewise are angry at us.

When a negative emotion is understood, when its roots are illuminated, the energy behind the emotion diminishes and even disappears. When you feel angry, the healthy response is to learn what caused the anger, to rectify the situation if that is possible, and then to let go of the anger.

Understanding and love dissolve anger.

And i know now why there is hatred. And that is because people never put in the effort to try to understand where others are coming from. That is why there is the existence of judgementalism. The fear of the unknown causes hatred and jealousy to breed.

I am happy and at peace with myself.

Right now, I think I know where you concluded your slandering words from. Sigh... don't draw conclusions until you know. Accusations hurt. Accusations are always wrong, bacause you don't know. Research before you say anything else. I don't bear grudges. I really don't.

I have read a friend's blog today which I guess is fingered towards me with what she said: I still speak bad about her. For goodness' sake I have moved on. I have never and still don't bear any grudges against her. She knows me best among everyone else and she believes instead what others tell her. The devils are at work. I believe that the closer you are to God the more the devils will try to make you hate people. Believe in what you know and not what you think you know. I have moved on and long shut my mouth about things with you. Whether you want to believe it or not is up to you. I have long washed my hands. My conscience is clear.